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Mishlei 18-03 (Dishonor)

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Key Concepts of Mishlei 18-03 (Dishonor)
The way a person treats others has a direct effect on his own character. Thus, the Mishnah teaches that one who honors others is himself worthy of honor (Avos 4, 1). The reverse effect is also true. A person who disrespects others stamps himself with dishonor and reveals himself to be a wicked person (רָשָׁע) .
Inevitably, when such a dishnorable person looks at other people he sees their faults and is quick to insult them, diminishing further their self-worth. In effect, his own faults are mirrored by the way he judges others. And so the person who insults others is unwittingly reacting to his own faults.
Unfortunately, the effect of showering another person with insults is often to make that second person feel degraded and unworthy. The tragic result is that the victim begins to think of himself as shameful. And so the bad character of the רָשָׁע has had the effect of transmitting his bad character to another person.
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(ג) בְּבוֹא רָשָׁע בָּא גַם בּוּז וְעִם קָלוֹן חֶרְפָּה:
With the arrival of a wicked person, insult also comes; and with dishonor, [comes] shame.
The first part of this proverb describes how the character of a רָשָׁע results in him unfairly insulting an innocent victim. The second part shows how this cruel treatment can corrupt the second person and result in having that newly dishonorable person adopt the shameful qualities of the first.
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(ג) בְּבוֹא רָשָׁע בָּא גַם בּוּז 
וְעִם קָלוֹן חֶרְפָּה:
With the arrival of a wicked person — בְּבוֹא רָשָׁע , there also comes insult — בָּא גַם בּוּז as he demeans his adversary. This results in the degradation of the insulted person. And with the arrival of degradation — וְעִם קָלוֹן , shame and dishonor follows — חֶרְפָּה as the other person emulates the behavior of the one who attcked him.
Additional Insights
(1) The various forms of insult, dishonor, and shame are interconnected. Each leads to the next, based on the general principle of “one sin leads to another.” ( (עבירה גוררת עבירה . ( אבן עזרא )
(2) The רָשָׁע should be ashamed of his sins, but because of his wicked character, not only is he unashamed, he goes one step further by insulting another, seeking to inculcate shame into another. ( רבינו יונה )